So, I just got back from her (flash) and immediately wondered; How long does the magic (nice word for wild unabridged, well you know, things that include boobies) last after you make the jump (176 days & counting)? A better way to ask is: Can the NOVELTY last a long time?Forever? For a short time, thereafter? What can you do to make it last? As men, we know that once the novelty wanes, whether our fault or theirs, what's left is football? Blogging? Oh gosh, I've started on the wrong end. I'm already talking to myself and watching football!
I would enjoy hearing from woman about this. What can we men do to extend the experience? What can woman do? I know, its got to be a joint effort. I think in my situation, my partner has enough for both of us. I'm counting on her to inject her enthusiasm when ever I'm coming up short. Men!
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My oh my, I cannot believe that in this day and age there are intelligent people relying on their partner to have enough "magic" in order to sustain the entire relationship. What a disconnect on your part! Wouldn't it be ironic if your partner is depending on you for the same thing? You are obviously an intelligent individual who is ignoring the fact that you will be entering a marriage that is already doomed. Why? Perhaps it is because she is the best candidate out of a string of failed relationships. Or you are starting to feel as though you need to have someone in your life to fall back on? You know, that reliable person, the one who probably wasn't treated very well by anyone else until you came along. And as a reward to you, for having been so wonderful, she is willing to carry the load. If you are already thinking about football you are already miserable. How much do you have in common with each other? Do you really enjoy her company aside from "boo...bie" time, which is quite childish I might add. Will she be in another room watching some Lifetime movie, while you are watching football? Have you met someone who is different from you, yet so much more interesting? A woman who was intellectually stimulating, visually appealing, fun, hey; maybe even exciting. Contrary to popular belief there are women out there fitting that description, one just has to be patient and certainly not looking. Are you not willing to take a chance in starting over again with someone who can capture your attention and maintain it? Let me guess, you are afraid of hurt?! I understand, that is a tough thing to do. However, how much more hurt would she be if you were unfaithful to her?! You know that there is always someone more exciting when you are in a relationship that was merely a settlement on your part. Someone who could distract you if only for a moment. Novelty can last a long time if both parties are contributing to it. Marry her because you are crazy (not in a psychotic way)about her, you miss her when she is gone and look forward to sharing things tih her, other than bodily fluids. Marry her because you want to, not because you have probably dated for so long that there is a certain sense of obligation that crawled into your head and camped out. Ask yourself do you feel obligated to buy a car, shoes, electronics, etc., because the sales associates spent some time with you? Like you I was married for some time and as a result I have a wonderful child. And yes, I had a count down of my own once, but I couldn't go through with it. I had to be honest with myself and admit that I knew misery would always be the third wheel if I married. That although he had enough "Magic" for the two us I would grow to really dislike him. I most certainly would welcome time and distance away from him. But I guess that the real tipoff as to why I shouldn't marry him was that I could not be myself around my friends and family when he was around. He watched sports while I just wanted to hit the door running. Yes, he was a good person, but he just wasn't good for me! I suggest that while you are on the "Real Road" to who knows where you stop and take a "Real Look" at what you are about to embark in. A wedding is expense if you go that route, but a divorce has no limit on time wasted, money spent (attorneys) and broken promises. I wish you harmony, health and good fortune.
Signed,
Life Reinvented
Illinois
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